Clean up! Tidy up!
Everyone wants their child to learn good behaviors; good behavior is crucial for social, emotional, and psychological development leading a child to a more successful future in his/her career, relationships, and schooling in his/her adult life.
In order for a new behavior to stick, all members of the family have to be involved in reinforcing it; that includes not just parents, siblings, but also teachers and house staff, such as nannies, drivers and governesses/governors.
What are some of the good behaviors modeled at nursery school to be reflected at home? Here are some:
- Clean up! Tidy up! (put your toys back for organization and responsibility)
- Push your chair in! (organization and responsibility)
- Don’t leave the room! (safety)
- Wash your hands! (hygiene)
- Kind hands, kind feet, kind words, and listening ears! (social & emotional development: healthy boundaries)
- Can I play with it when you are done? (communication & socialization)
- Please, thank you, excuse me, sorry! (social & emotional development)
Consistency is key; and, at times explaining why a rule is in place helps the child to comply with what you are asking him or her.
For example, asking a child to tidy up their toys so that the room can remain a safe place to play in and they can continue enjoying their toys by not losing pieces.
Be sure to praise immediately after the child has done exactly what you have asked him/her to do. That is the next step for making the good behavior stay permanently. Check in next week which will be about positive reinforcement.
Authored by Lynette M. Cornog